Here, grand-mom’s the word
47-year-old Diptiben
delivers her twin grandchildren at a clinic in Anand
Ayesha Khan
Ahmedabad January 29, 2004
Anand, January 29:
DIPTIBEN, a 47-year-old from Anand, delivered her
twin grandchildren today at a clinic here. The family,
despite the ecstasy, chose to remain anonymous and it
was the doctor who posed before the media with the twins
— a boy and girl.
That there were many an
emotional moments behind the closed doors of room no 9
of Akanksha Clinic was evident from the words of Dr
Nayna Patel who carried out the caesarean section, and
Karsandas, paternal grandfather of the twins, who had
specially flown in from London for the occasion. He was
the only person from the family who faced the media.
‘‘I am overwhelmed and
my son, when he heard the news on phone, too was
emotional and made me cry,’’ said Karsandas. ‘‘Diptiben
was ecstatic after she gave birth to her grandchildren.
She has made an impossible dream come true for our
family,’’ he added.
However, room no 9
remained firmly locked except for a brief interval when
the babies were brought out, wrapped in baby pink and
blue blankets to pose for cameras.
Diptiben, who agreed to
be the surrogate mother for her UK-based daughter after
much persuasion from members of her family, is reported
to be coping well after the caesarean section. Apart
from legal formalities for British adoption of the
twins, the family says they prefer anonymity as Diptiben
has two unmarried daughters.
Dr Patel said Diptiben
was initially hesitant, faced with the moral dilemma of
mothering her daughter and son-in-law’s children.
However, after delivery, she is happy to have been able
to give this unique gift to her daughter, said the
doctor.
‘‘Her only worry now is
the marriage of her two daughters and that is why she
wants complete anonymity,’’ said Dr Nayna Patel.
Talking to media,
Karsandas said the only reason why he is facing them is
to promote awareness on surrogate motherhood and stress
the necessity of familial as well as societal support
and acceptance for such acts.
‘‘The only reason why I
am talking to media is to bring about an awareness on
such issues,’’ Karsandas told television networks.
‘‘There is no point in blaming a woman if she cannot
bear children, I just understood my daughter-in-law’s
situation,’’ said Karsandas.
He took the initiative
on surrogate motherhood after seeking counselling with a
British group COTS (Childlessness Overcome Through
Surrogacy), after it was found that Reena could not have
children as she did not have a uterus.
Karsandas said he
intended to establish a charity fund and also a support
group for Asian community on the issue of surrogate
motherhood.
‘‘Blaming women for not
having children is a typical Asian mentality and I
believe it is the greatest insult to a woman,’’
Karsandas said.
He said his priority is
to ensure legal adoption of the twins in UK so that they
can be brought to their London home. He said afterwards
he would concentrate on publishing medical and
counselling literature on surrogate motherhood in
various Indian languages.
While the twins would
be brought up in UK, Karsandas plans a quiet retirement
in Saurashtra in a couple of years.
‘‘Reena has two sisters
of marriageable age and ours being a conservative
society, we should respect their privacy,’’ he said.
He said he would like
to call his grandchildren Vivek and Sharda, in honour of
Swami Vivekanand and Sharda Devi, Ramakrishna Paramhans’
mother.
Dr Patel said, ‘‘It
gives me great satisfaction; the joy of the family is
just overwhelming.’’